Obviously In Love With America But I Hate The Truth It Keeps From Me And The Lies It Tells About Me

The Exploitations of America’s Love/Hate Tendencies

How can we love and hate something, or someone, or some place, all at the same time? Is it tolerance? I empirically believe so. How is it that we can love freedom and democracy but hate its majoritarian privileges and oppressive precepts? How can we love a place that was colonized through hateful genocidal acts of violence and as it boast its socioeconomic power predicated on over 2 centuries of slavery and a lifetime of inequality? How can you love a president that uses fallacious reasoning; to make you suspiciously fearful and resentful of freedom and democracy; rebuke equality and diversity; and ahistorically instill you with national pride?

But yet I can never leave. I can never get back all I that have invested. I could never consider a substitution for only a similar promise. I could never turn my back and just let it go. It seems unhealthy but I keep coming back. It’s who I am. My pledge of allegiance is in what it ought to be, but this relationship is marked by betrayal in all actuality.

There is a great deal of emotional labor involved with our roles as individual Americans. It is a labor of love and hate. Whether you are an alt-right propagandist or an extreme left apostle, or perhaps your are trapped in between, there is a profoundly emotional dissonance with the way in which we love our America. The way we pursue life, liberty, and happiness — interdependently, is a love hate journey of tolerant intolerance.

Dr. Ben -Zeév, a professor of philosophy and a former president of the University of Haifa clarified this emotional dissonance when he explained this love hate phenomena for Psychology Today.

It is interesting to note that our desire for exclusivity arises in romantic love but not in hate. On the contrary, in hate we want to see our negative attitude shared by others. It seems natural that we want to share our negative fortune with others while wanting to keep the positive part merely to ourselves. In positive emotions, when we are happy, we are more open to being attentive to other people, but we guard the source of our happiness more.

The contextual hate we express at times for certain aspects of the country we unconditionally love in tolerance seems to derive from the intolerance of its betrayals we experience. The exclusive right that the majoritarian group privileges itself with indulgences is contextually wrong by racial hierarchy. That exclusivity is uniquely American should and does encompass an intrinsic diversity being shunned.

I love the idea and the theory of an intrinsically contributive diversity and equality in the propensity for opportunities to be had in America — it is a very attractive feature, but I hate the racism and the inequality it betrays me with at times in its actual practice. When I express my feelings of hurt, displeasure or injustice over this in protest or in resistance to these socially constructed schisms with the rights constitutionally granted to me, it presents this paradox of tolerance — where the love I have for America is simultaneously destroying me and my intrinsic contributions.

The paradox of tolerance was described by Karl Popper in 1945. The paradox states that if a society is tolerant without limit, their ability to be tolerant will eventually be seized or destroyed by the intolerant. Popper came to the seemingly paradoxical conclusion that in order to maintain a tolerant society, the society must be intolerant of intolerance. — Wikipedia Commons

A tolerance untoward something so intolerant will eventually lead to the disappearance of tolerance and with it goes self-preservation. Our pursuit of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness — interdependently would be decimated by intolerance. The democracy we crave would simply vanish.

President Trump is the epitome of intolerance seeking to destroy tolerance. The vanity and insanity of Trump’s whiteness projected onto the American public is a scourge on our humanity first and our country second.

The symbolic violence of Trump’s feud with the NFL, over its player’s right to protest and highlight the injustice that not only affects their own lives but the lives of their families, friends, the myriad of fans, as well as the service personnel in defense of this country when they return home is a farce. This is clearly a conveyance of intolerance that is indicative of an intent to destroy what is fundamentally an American virtue — tolerance.

It is by extension the same issue being displayed with our prevailing immigration policies — intolerance.

Just About the Only Thing Trump Hasn’t Lied About

“This is a very winning, strong issue for me,” Mr. Trump said in a phone call, according to a sworn deposition given by Mr. Jones and reviewed by The Wall Street Journal. “Tell everybody, you can’t win this one. This one lifts me.”

If we continue to lift him in this way we will be crushed under the weight of intolerance. This is clearly a startling truth about the intent to deceive and sow authoritarianism that is wielded in the most racist and vilest of ways covertly being kept and obfuscated as ingratitude and disrespect for a thing, or a place we have been conditioned to unconditionally love. This is also meant to conditionally force us into saluting a commander-in-chief, of which we by popular vote, loathe to love.

A White House official said that Mr. Trump was advising Mr. Jones on what he believed would be good for the country and good for the sport. “The majority of the American people agree with the president, love our country, love our flag and believe it should be respected,” the official said.

I love America but I hate the truth it keeps from us and the lies it tells about us. My intent here is to expose this love hate relationship for what it is and what is it is doing to us all.

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