This was very enlightening. While polygamy is certainly not foreign to me, having had a grandfather who gave me 23 aunts and uncles by 10 women in Jamaica, it did come with varying degrees of strife ranging from jealousy, resentment, shame, negligence, and dispositional anger. By no means is this an exhaustive list and I am just talking about the offspring here of which I know more intimately.

This consequential aspect is conspicuously missing from discussion. Although societal views are more cognizant of the equal footing of women there is less stigmatizations and more authority granted to the males in polygamy.

I find it intriguing and offensive at the same time, which makes me conflicted. I have a strong aversion to conflict and drama, which would not make me a candidate for nor volunteer to polygamous relationships. This has nothing to do with having a traditional mindset. It has all to do with this aversion I have to the Need For Drama (NFD) which is an actual personlity trait.

People with drama-prone personalities generally live chaotic lives and inflict contrived crises on family, friends, and co-workers. In our interpersonal relationships, we would likely identify “dramatic” indi- viduals with their histories of failed relationships and their conflicts with friends and family. Often this interpersonal drama becomes public on social networking sites.(Frankowski, S., Lupo, A. K., etc, 2015)

The icing on the proverbial cake being eaten too is the attention garnered with making a reality tv series from it which accommodates a false justification, if I may, to the matter.

My thoughts here are not qualms in opposition to polygamy but there are just concerns rather for the after-effects of which I am very aware of.

Marley K. your silence is deafening on this topic. lol

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