When You’re Actually With Him

3 min readJan 16, 2017

It may be odd, illogical, and seem like a lack of common sense, but there is a plausible and rational (ignorance) to why celebrity or not, that a contingent of women would perceive this in the way that they do. That Trump is being treated unfairly, or even bullied by the opposition. Yes, remarkably the bully is seen as being bullied.

“We got cocky and became arrogant and we also became bullies,” the 38-year-old actress said of Trump, who has been frequently berated himself for bullying tactics, including seemingly mocking a reporter with disabilities.

“We were trying to single out a man for all these things he was doing wrong… and that created empathy in a big group of people in America that felt bad for him and that are believing in his promises.”

However, it really shouldn’t be so surprising. The answer stems from a culturally and traditionally gendered hierarchical role of finding security and promise in the more aggressive and more brutish sentiments of an alpha male for providing that protection and care. Basically, Trump is seen as their ‘daddy’, and some may even have their own daddy issues that play into this. It appears mostly instinctive that this sort of response would be forthcoming and shared.

“I just say he’s now elected and we as a country need to support whoever’s the president because that’s what the country’s based on. However that happened, he’s there, and let’s go,” [Nicole] Kidman said.

In a democracy, resistance is actually a contributing factor; a check on the balance of power as well as who is in power. It is often useful in mitigating the threat of autocratic rule. That said there isn’t a diminished respect for the title that is being attributed to this presidency, it’s just that there is difficulty in respecting the way that this man has won it. For the support of the president of the United States is a de facto premise.

This probably explains why the resistance to Donald Trump seems awkward at times and disjointed among women and men, particularly among women’s rights proponents of which we assume all women would innately support. Contemplated, I can…