Wow, I gotta say Gina, that you and your husband’s conscientious approach to bringing a moral and ethical sense of self-awareness about the (psychotic) detriments of racialization to your “sweetie bird” deserves much applause, despite the fact that such humane actions should merely be seen as “doing the right thing”.
I also applaud the effort and courage in doing so which is something that may get overlooked. I liken the unsolicited subscription to the vanity and insanity of whiteness as organized fraud and crime against humanity, and if you speak out against it, especially as someone who is racially white, to be akin to “going against the mob” in mafioso speak.
This is what makes de-racialization exhaustingly daunting, but demandingly obligatory an exercise to our existentially dehumanizing existence. You will also have to contend with some pseudo profound tribalistic feedback in defense of whiteness, which is intended to, or supposed to make you feel as if you are expressing disloyalty to your own kind, or more politically incorrectly as if you are a rat — again in mafioso speak. You see where I am going with this.
Apparently you have some intimation of and about the vanity and insanity of whiteness that makes you “woke”, while many others would rather sleep walk through the perpetuation of injustice and violence inherent in it. To me this faulty concept is just everyday recycling of dehumanization.
When you dehumanize others, you in essence, become dehumanized.
When people are mechanistically dehumanized by being treated as objects, as means to an end, or as lacking the capacity for feeling, they tend to enter into “cognitive deconstructive” states that are characterized by reduced clarity of thought, emotional numbing, cognitive inflexibility, and an absence of meaningful thought (Twenge et al., 2003; Bastian and Haslam, 2011). Experiencing this form of dehumanization leads to pervasive feelings of sadness and anger. Also dehumanizing are status-reducing interpersonal maltreatments such as condescension, degradation, or being treated as embarrassing, incompetent, unintelligent, or unsophisticated (Vohs et al., 2007), which lead to feelings of guilt and shame (Bastian and Haslam, 2011).
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I appreciate you sharing and doing your part — to be human.